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The Wank Bank investigated, by the girls

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The wank bank investigated, by the girls - Remember July

The Wank Bank investigated, by the girls

Self-pleasure teaches you where and how you like to be touched, and lets you discover and explore your sexual fantasies. It’s an excellent way to relax and release some tension, not to mention that it can help you fall asleep at night as effectively as reading a book, if not more.

Research by American sexologist, writer and sex therapist Gloria Brame explains that an orgasm, regardless of how it has come about, is the biggest non-drug blast of dopamine available. 

She’s considered a leading authority on the psychology, biology, and emotional experience of sex and her book The Truth About Sex, A Sex Primer for the 21st Century Volume I: Sex and the Self, is a handbook on masturbation, orgasm, and new models for talking about, thinking about, and understanding your inner sexual identity.

Knowing your body through self-touch can also make you more confident in bed with a partner, and more vocal about what you like and how you want to be touched.

A recent survey found that no less than 96% of people, both male and female, masturbate at least once a month. We all do it, because it feels good.  

Rebecca, a 30-year-old art director from NSW, agrees.

“Although research shows that women masturbate as frequently as men, it's still not a topic that many females discuss openly, but I have no problem with it,” she says. 

She has a great group of friends, and the girls get together once or twice a month at Rebecca’s house in Newcastle for a catch-up, a few glasses of wine, and talks about life.

“It’s fair to say that we don’t always agree on everything, but there is respect for the other person’s opinion and above all, there’s trust. We talk openly, honestly, and nothing is taboo.”

Last Friday night, the topic turned to masturbation and what they each think about to help make them come.

“It depends, but this morning I got my Rabbit out and thought about that hot Brazilian guy from the coffeeshop. It’s not the first time I picked him as a dream lover, and I have all sorts of thoughts about what he’d do to me if he would come back to my place for some sexy fun,” said Katie.

“It starts with him grabbing my boobs with one hand and putting the other one under my skirt to rip my knickers off. As you can imagine, it didn’t take me long to come as my vibe is pretty powerful, too. A great start of the day, I’d say!”

Although single, Katie said she wouldn’t make a pass at the coffeeshop guy in real life. For now, the fantasy is all she needs.

“I’ve built up such a perfect picture of him, and it would probably be a disappointment if I’d try to actually seduce him. His cock is perfect in my imagination, and so are his skills as a lover. It’d be hard for anyone to live up to that.”

She said it’s better to keep him in her sexy dreams and do nothing more than give him a smile and the occasional tip when she orders her latte.  

Fantasy or memories

Then there’s Sarah, a legal secretary who comes across as conservative but is quite the opposite when you get to know her. She is a free spirit, loves adventure, and lives life to the fullest.

She shared with the girls that she had talked about this with her boyfriend Chris a little while ago.

He told her he often thinks about that time when she dressed up for him all sultry in lacy black lingerie with lots of heavy makeup and ridiculously high heels. 

“That was more than two years ago, but he says it makes him hard every time he thinks about it. I think that’s cool, and it was great fun so I must do it again sometime.”

Men call it the ‘wank bank’. That’s where they store mental images for the purpose of self-pleasure. Essentially, it’s a mental masturbation folder and women have it, too.

For females, it often features people they don’t know or even fancy in real life, such as a movie star or demigod. Then again, an ex or a current lover can also make an appearance.  

“I dream about being tied up to the bed and fucked hard by a complete stranger,” said Andy, who works in IT and is a solo mum.   

“His looks change but he’s always huge, with a beard, and he’s rough with me. Sometimes he’s joined by another man or two, and they speak in a language I don’t understand. In my mind, they do whatever they want with me and I’m totally helpless. I love it, and it makes me come so hard.”

While Andy enjoys thinking about her fictional Vikings when she plays with herself, Rebecca confessed that she often remembers the affair she had with her boss when she was 21 when she’s having sex solo.  

“He was much older than me, married, and had a high profile in our social circle. It was a big secret, and we’d meet in a motel. He would do what he wanted, and not stop until we were both completely spent. Thinking about that still sends me over the edge,” she says.  

A persistent social stigma

The girls agreed that everyone’s sexuality is different, and that we all like different things when it comes to touch and sex, but no one denied that touching yourself feels good.

Although most boys seem to be totally comfortable talking about wanking from quite a young age, for many girls it’s still a big taboo.

“We’re a generation that shares almost everything, so why not this? Even the so-called 'Sex and the City generation' still blushes when the topic comes up. It’s crazy,” says Rebecca.

“I’m really glad I brought it up on Friday with the girls, as there’s nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about. Solo sex is totally normal, and the benefits of masturbation are huge. Self-pleasure makes us feel good. It’s as simple as that.”  

Rebecca has great sex with her partner Ricky and she also owns two sex toys, a clitoral sonic massager and a G-spot vibrator, which she uses a few times a week.

“Masturbation is normal, enjoyable and healthy. It’s about time that the secret subject of women and masturbation gets put aside and let’s admit that a little more Ménage à Moi is exactly what we need.”  

You may be interested in the products mentioned in the article. The clitoral sonic massager and the G-spot vibrator.

K.M.

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